So this is something that has always bothered me and has been an issue since I was 14 years old and started running outside (14! really pervs??), and THAT is cat calling/honking/men yelling obscenities. I know this is a part of living in a city, but it has been a thing in every city I've lived in (including an incident with cat calling COPS), and even when I did a stint living in the nice quiet burbs. And I know it's not just me- I see it happen to runners and walkers every day and read about it on other running blogs.
To me this is not only incredibly degrading and disrespectful and embarrassing, but it makes me feel unsafe. If these men feel they have the right to yell out what they would like to do, what is stopping them from actually doing it? Do they feel they also have the right to assault me simply because I'm a female and I'm running or walking outside?
I have an old roommate (hi Amanda!) who started "giving it back" to the cat callers, so for example a man yells "I want to grab that ass!" she yells right back "I want to grab YOUR ass". It at least threw them off, and provided some good laughs afterwards (just imagine when comments where genitals are involved).
So I'm curious- how do you handle this or how would you handle this? Do you think it's safe to "give it back"? Is there a "right" way to handle these situations? And why is it "ok" for men to do this??
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